Talking To Teens About Plastic Surgery
As parents we want the best for our children, and often make sacrifices so they obtain the best education possible, participate in extracurricular activities, and perhaps dress better than we did as teenagers. There are times when parents can push too hard, and unwittingly hurt our child’s feelings or make him/her feel less than the great kids they are. A glowing example is when a parent broaches the subject of plastic surgery with the teen poorly, such as saying “If your nose didn’t have that bump, you’d be so much prettier.” While the parent may not mean to convey that the teen isn’t pretty, that’s what the teen may hear. Our children inherently know that parents are biased in their favor and think they’re more wonderful, talented and beautiful than anyone else, so when a comment like this is made about a teen’s physical appearance, it can cut to the bone. If your teen is happy with his or her appearance, then let them be. However, if your teen has been bothered by his/her nose for some time then find a positive way. Just like talking to kids about sex, drugs, and rock-n’-roll, there’s a way to talk about plastic surgery. One example may be, “I sense your bothered by your nose. If you could change your nose what would you do?” It’s also important to note that a reputable plastic surgeon will not perform rhinoplasty on a teen whose nose has not fully grown and developed. Therefore, girls are usually able to have rhinoplasty at 16, while boys may have to wait a year or so more.